Here are 5 ways that I—a fat, butch, hairy chick—maintain a fantastic sexual/romantic life:
1. Be Yourself.
There are over 7 billion people in the world, so it’s guaranteed that at least one of them will like you just as you are.
2. Wear Whatever the Fuck You Want.
Do you like wearing skinny jeans and tank tops? Rock it. Do you like pretty, feminine dresses? Go for it. Do you like cargo pants and button-up tops and combat boots? Do it. There might be someone out there who doesn’t want to fuck you because they don’t like your style. So what?
3. Do Whatever the Fuck You Want.
Do what makes you happy, and fuck the rest.
4. Be Confident.
Confidence is a choice. Choose to love yourself, and then affirm your decision daily by reminding yourself just how much of a rock star you are.
5. Love Yourself.
Again, this is a choice. If you love yourself, no one can make you feel shitty. I love myself. I love my body, I choose to spend my time with those who realize how much I rock, and I ignore anyone who thinks their distaste for me carries any weight.
Let’s stop trying to define subjective concepts for other people and rejoice in the fact that beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder."
— my new favorite person, Chelsea Manasseri
— Bad Feminist by Roxane Gay