forget cupcakes, this thing is my new obsession! kouign aman by @bpatisserie, space by @sightglass #middaytreat #pastryoclock  (at Sightglass Coffee)

forget cupcakes, this thing is my new obsession! kouign aman by @bpatisserie, space by @sightglass #middaytreat #pastryoclock (at Sightglass Coffee)

my favorite thing this year (so far)

"

Here are 5 ways that I—a fat, butch, hairy chick—maintain a fantastic sexual/romantic life:

1. Be Yourself.

There are over 7 billion people in the world, so it’s guaranteed that at least one of them will like you just as you are.

2. Wear Whatever the Fuck You Want.

Do you like wearing skinny jeans and tank tops? Rock it. Do you like pretty, feminine dresses? Go for it. Do you like cargo pants and button-up tops and combat boots? Do it. There might be someone out there who doesn’t want to fuck you because they don’t like your style. So what?

3. Do Whatever the Fuck You Want.

Do what makes you happy, and fuck the rest.

4. Be Confident.

Confidence is a choice. Choose to love yourself, and then affirm your decision daily by reminding yourself just how much of a rock star you are.

5. Love Yourself.

Again, this is a choice. If you love yourself, no one can make you feel shitty. I love myself. I love my body, I choose to spend my time with those who realize how much I rock, and I ignore anyone who thinks their distaste for me carries any weight.

Let’s stop trying to define subjective concepts for other people and rejoice in the fact that beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder.

"

— my new favorite person, Chelsea Manasseri

because rock music is kind of awesome

holy yum.

thanks, Playboy, for being totally respectable.

thanks, Playboy, for being totally respectable.

Tags: hard choices

"I get angry when women disavow feminism and shun the feminist label but say they support all the advances born of feminist because I see a disconnect that does not need to be there. I get angry but I understand and hope someday we will live in a world where we don’t need to distance ourselves from the feminist label, where the label doesn’t make us afraid of being alone, of being too different, of wanting too much."

Bad Feminist by Roxane Gay

Tags: bad feminist

finished tomato soup: cream, goat cheese, roasted corn + baby beet greens. enjoying this cold with olive bread. #mmm

finished tomato soup: cream, goat cheese, roasted corn + baby beet greens. enjoying this cold with olive bread. #mmm

Tags: mmm

I am a huge fan of Jimmy Fallon & his show, but I felt very uncomfortable with this whole segment. personally, I’ve been in a group of guys where there are sexual comments being thrown around about you in front of everyone. the sentiment is that you’re supposed to go along with it. this is how you “fit in”.

just here to say - that’s not OK.

you shouldn’t have to be made to feel small and powerless. 

what makes me most annoyed these days is that most guys have no idea what it’s like to be a woman. maybe you never truly can unless you experience it for yourself, but most men have no awareness that our guard is always up, that we analyze men first and foremost for potential threat level. men who get offended after I don’t respond to them have no idea what I’m thinking. sometimes it just feels safer to not engage at all. women I’ve talked to feel just comfortable enough to respond in daylight hours only, if anything.*

it’s time for this to change. if you want this to change too, talk about it. and not just with women.

#yesallwomen

Stop Telling Women to Smile

street art in Cairo

*I live in a big city, so this type of stuff is constant.